No surprising really, since they belong to the same gender as the predators, we want them to protect us from. And if these men are not raping unwilling victims, they’re scheming to let loose their raping libido between the sheets of vulnerable women. 

To him, I was a challenge. He’d obviously lusted after me in our student days but he wasn’t my type, so I ignored him.  Now it seemed a bit of a triumph for him the way we were sleeping together.

Later, two words kept playing on my mind – open marriage. What kind of a relationship was that exactly?  What did it really mean?  How could his wife let him make love to other women?  What exactly is in all this for me?

It’s often said that you never know a partner until you live together. For almost two years, Deola and Cletus not only courted, they lived in each other’s flats. When Cletus eventually proposed marriage,

I was pleased that we had a lot of things to talk about. At the end of the evening, I was in lust!  Though it took a lot of effort for me to stop him from coming into my flat, I wished I had.

I’m an old-fashioned man and like to treat a woman correctly. I have a good job and I recently re-located to the country. I open doors for my girlfriends and hate to see a woman carrying heavy bags.

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She then asked one of her daughters to find out who the little boy was. The daughter shrugged and told her mother they would discuss the matter later. That she knew who the boy was.

After the initial shock, he said hello.  He then looked me up and down and smirked, `Hmm, looks like you’ve put on a bit of weight…” The girl sticking to his side was tall, slim and well-turned out!  I was dumbstruck by his hostility and just stood there with my mouth hanging open. Afterwards, I thought of all these witty replies I should have given … But what good were they after the event?”

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Ten reasons why you should be having more sex!

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A few hours later, he was urging everybody to drink and be merry as he started on is first drink.  The problem was that whilst others sipped theirs, he gulped his. By the time the last but one guest left, he was crashed out unconscious on the sofa.

Ebele’s predicament outraged parents in her neighbourhood, some of them alleging this all happened because here wasn’t enough sex education in schools!  Makes one want to laugh, doesn’t it?  Kids as old as nine years already know, through sex education and watching TV, how to have sex, what positions to use and the importance of contraception.

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