By Bunmi Sofola You have been used and dumped by your partner and you’ve hurt terribly.  Now you consider your next line of action.  Should you walk away with your head held high or let your emotions get the best of you by plotting revenge?  After almost three years of living with her partner, Roy, Juyin […]

By Bunmi Sofola If your partner is a chronic alcoholic, most experts advise you to show him the door.  That only when he has reached rock bottom will he be ready to overcome his addiction to alcohol.  But what happens if that alcoholic is your father – or your mum as it was the case with […]

By Bunmi Sofola THE rainy season is fast upon us.  A few of us might skip through the season; but most of us will succumb, enduring between two and five bouts of sniffing and sneezing each year – each lasting an average of nine days.  Experts believe we spend around five years of our lives sneezing, […]

By Bunmi Sofola With many of our men complaining of different types of ‘accidents’ in the bedroom, it is no surprise that the help of what is now termed a ‘sexual surrogate’ could come in handy.  The average ‘sexual surrogate’ is not a prostitute but a trained psychotherapist who acts as a surrogate for men suffering […]

Sadly, a lot of men have had the power rug pulled from under their feet, no thanks to the current economic crunch that’s robbed them of a chunk of their incomes.

Just how much pain can a person in love put up with?  You think you have your priorities sorted out, your principles just so.  Then it happens.

By Bymi Sofola Ola, Dupe’s husband, now rich – beyond their wildest dreams, has alcohol as his albatross.  She doesn’t always know what type of rabbit he’ll pull out of his full magic hat of embarrassments when he’s drunk.  The last I witnessed was early this year when the family had a belated New Year party.  […]

By Bunmi Sofola DID it ever occur to you that when you stood at the altar and promised to love your husband ‘in sickness and in health,’ that one day you’d be forced to confront the reality of those vows?  You ought to.  This is life.  We’re all going to get old.  Some of us may […]

By Bunmi Sofola Recently scientific research has shown the risk of having heart failure or a stroke doubles in the first month after losing a loved one.  The findings add to growing evidence that bereavement doesn’t just increase the risk of depression and anxiety, but can weaken the body’s defences against all types of disease […]

By Bunmi Sofola How would you feel if your dad slept with your best friend?  It happens all of the time but it’s no fun when you’re at the receiving end.  ‘To say that my father, a great raconteur, often put on a show for my female friends would be an understatement.  From the moment they […]

By Bunmi Sofola I had not realised just how valuable my own parents’ presence in my children’s lives would be until I moved back to the family home with them – and brought my three children with me”, said 41-year-old Ijeoma, a pharmacist with a pharmaceutical company.  “I now appreciate the wonder of grandparents – they […]

By Bunmi Sofola IT would be easy to assume that it is young irresponsible girls who are most likely to opt for abortion, but it is, in fact, middle-aged women who are pushing up the abortion rate.  Emilia was a divorced mother of three and just turned 40, when she met Chuka, a widower at a […]

By Bunmi Sofola Until recently, Jibola, a 39-year-old accountant was the life and soul of most parties he attended.  He would think nothing of polishing off a bottle or two of red wine, then follow it up with whatever booze was available.  Then, one day, horrified at seeing a colleague’s daughter’s wedding photographs and how ridiculous […]

By Bunmi Sofola HAVE you readers noticed the new and growing breed of ‘forever singles’?  It consists of a band of empowered, independent women who don’t want to be defined by a relationship.  Not for them nights slumped on the sofa trying to pacify a screaming kid whilst their man snores in front of Super […]

By Bunmi Sofola When a woman sizes up the opposition and sees she could give her a good run for her money, she often doubles up her effort to win back her man.   But what does she do if the opposition is a granny?!   Andrey, and her husband, Caleb, had been married for eighty years […]